Holiday stress is such a real thing. I mean let’s just be honest, there is SO much pressure. All the cooking, baking, dressing nice, trying to keep the house clean, shuffling back and forth to all the places, budgeting for presents and holiday shopping, maintain your fitness and health goals, deal with inevitably you or your family (or both) being sick at some point; and try to just keep your head above water. 

Anybody else relate? My to do list is usually so overwhelming that I stop keeping one and just turn on autopilot until January. Then I get to January burnt out, emotionally drained, and physically beat down from not taking care of myself and focusing on the wrong things. 

Don’t get me wrong, all the things I listed are important bullet points on the holiday to do list and I’m not saying you should knock any off just yet. What I HAVE found; and what I am BEGINNING to learn, is that the holidays are (as we all know) about being thankful for our families and for God. We are meant to be focusing on those things. So while just realistically there will be stress. I have found that it is so much better for everyone when I focus on the WHY of the season. 

Maintaining your health and fitness. 👈🏼 important. Not so you can look good in the holiday dress. But so you feel good, get sick less, and have energy for everything you’re doing! A 3 month sugar binge is not going to keep you fueled and happy. Make good choices when you can, enjoy yourself at events, and remember your WHY. 

Budgeting/holiday shopping 🛍 👈🏼 I love shopping for people and finding their perfect gifts! But my WHY is to let the people in my life know how special they are to me. But you should NOT let gift giving stress you out or empty your accounts. Set your budgets and work within them. Even if that means you don’t do physical gifts. Give the gift of time or service. 🙌🏼

Being sick 🤒 this, at least for our family is inevitable. But in our house we take sickness like a rainy day and just get through it. At the first sight of sickness we buckle down, the person exhibiting signs of sickness immediately gets lots and lots of rest and fluids, we diffuse oils in our house, disinfect; and we take medicine like clock work. Don’t let sickness put you on the couch for days. Do what you have to do to get better. 

Most importantly, don’t let your personal care slack off. Take your bubble baths, do your Bible study, bake; whatever it is that helps you get recharged. Keep your focus! I am right there with you momma. We’re all walking through the holiday seasons together and I see you, tired momma; you got this!








So I have followed Soul Scripts, Jordan Lee Dooley for over a year now and have just fallen in love with the way she loves Jesus and her passion for sharing Him with people, specifically women. Jordan is a vibrant, genuine woman who has no problem laying it on the table for you. Continue reading “AGirlRefined”

How to start a budget

Today I’m writing to you about the B-Word.

Budgeting. Yuck.

Budget is a taboo word, you either love it or hate it. For some it can seem big and scary like you are about to have to live on rice and beans and give up Starbucks forever.

Well I am hear to tell you that is NOT the kind of budgeting we practice in our household, however budgeting is as extreme as you want it to be or need it to be depending on why you are budgeting. Here are the most common reasons I find people need to budget: Continue reading “How to start a budget”

Low Carb Staple Groceries, Meal Plans, Budgets.

Okay so here is something I get asked a lot, what diet am I on? The sad truth is that most people now a days are on some kind of diet, weight watchers, low fat, atkins, etc. and I suppose we are no different because we eat primarily low carb/lazy keto. I wont claim to be keto because we live an 80/20 life most of the time. If I am craving cake, I dont hunt down crazy ingredients to make a keto cake. I get the real deal, satisfy the craving and move on. Continue reading “Low Carb Staple Groceries, Meal Plans, Budgets.”

Hey, can you fix this?

Tonight I was sitting here thinking, as I usually do when I’m supposed to be sleeping. Looking at Pinterest and Instagram on my dear iPhone, my source of entertainment. Trying to be lulled to sleep by the sound of my husbands deep breathing and twitching of his body. (Doesn’t it sound dreamy?)

I got caught up in this image. Of me bringing my phone, that I love so much, to a bike shop, and asking them to address the issues I have with my phone. “Excuse me, Mr. Bicycle Man, my phone is so slow, can you make it faster?”

I’m sure he would laugh. “No, I don’t tix phones, I fix bikes! Bring that to a phone store”


If you want a bike fixed. You bring it to a bike man.

If you want a phone fixed. You bring it to a phone man. Continue reading “Hey, can you fix this?”

Feel the burn, not the burn-out.

If I had a dollar for every time someone used the phrase “burned-out” (or if you’re from the south burnt out) I would be a millionaire. Wanna know why? Because people are willing to go above and beyond when they feel called to a ministry, they feel a burning fire under them to get things done because it’s a passion for them. But- sooner or later, they get overused from a lack of delegation, lack of volunteers, lack of boundaries. Continue reading “Feel the burn, not the burn-out.”

Wanted: A Godly Tribe

Have you ever found yourself searching for a tribe that will lift you up in your life and walk with God only to find yourself pouring into friendships that leave you empty?

“Some wandered in desert wastes, finding no way to a city to dwell in;

hungry and thirsty,

their soul fainted within them.

Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble,

and he delivered them from their distress.” Psalm 107:4-6

Continue reading “Wanted: A Godly Tribe”

This is what my voice looks like?


You know the weirdest part about starting a blog? Not the theme, or the pictures, or the colors. The font. I feel like picking a font is like picking my voice. What would my voice look like? Arial Black? That’s pretty bold. I don’t feel that bold. Comic sans? Nah. Courier New seems a little too journalistic, I don’t have anything that important to say. So this is what I picked. Here is what my voice looks like on paper. Does it look like me?

So what do I have to say? A lot. Continue reading “This is what my voice looks like?”